He's been thinking about this since leaving Pittsburgh last month. He decided to leave me a few weeks ago. There never being a good time/place/etc. to do that, it didn't happen until today.
The bottom line is that he still feels traumatized by his parents' divorce and can't bring himself to put his daughter through something similar. On an intellectual level he sees the differences in circumstances them vs. him, then vs. now, but on an emotional level, he's paralyzed.
Anyway, n0thingman is on the phone now, so I'm gonna focus on that for a bit.