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Vibes.

All of this introspection is having an interesting effect on me.

Tonight, I was working with someone who annoys me. It's someone that I don't know particularly well. Some of it may just be that new job stuff -- I'm sure I was a pain in the butt before I really got the hang of things. But there's also something about the way this person interacts with people ... I dunno, it just rubs me the wrong way, I suppose.

So here's the thing: I'm sitting there tonight, and it clicks inside my head: I don't have to like this person. I can do my job, and complain to the manager when they're not doing their job, but it's perfectly OK for me to decide that nope, I don't like them.

It may not sound like a big deal to anyone else, but this is kind of news to me.

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hopita
Apr. 10th, 2006 02:18 pm (UTC)
I remember that. It was pretty funny. She must've had fun telling her friends about the whack jobs that came into her store that day.
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hopita
Apr. 10th, 2006 02:17 pm (UTC)
Likewise, I'm sure.
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hopita
Apr. 10th, 2006 02:17 pm (UTC)
This I remember. And I reminded Tom of it when he came to reunion one year.

I remember being outside the Union with you the next day. You were trying to eat an apple and couldn't, because you were still in so much pain. You would get some apple in your mouth, mush it around a bit, and then spit it out because you couldn't chew or swallow.

Good times!
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hopita
Apr. 10th, 2006 02:15 pm (UTC)
This is the only one of the things you mentioned that I don't distinctly remember. I wish I did.
divinetailor
Apr. 10th, 2006 11:51 am (UTC)
i totally understand and empathize. in this way i'm grateful to my officemate at Wright, who is...well, irritating and somewhat creepy, for helping me understand that it's perfectly fine to find another person really fucking annoying.

woo hoo!
hopita
Apr. 10th, 2006 02:20 pm (UTC)
I always really try to see the best in people, to empathize, to understand. It was great to look at this person last night and think screw it -- I don't have to understand, I don't have to care ... I just have to do my fucking job and that's it.
papilio_luna
Apr. 10th, 2006 01:17 pm (UTC)
I can't tell you how many times I've had to impart this little piece of wisdom on high school students in my classes. Like, guys, you don't have to point out what a bitch/asshole this other person is every 5 minutes. You don't have to like them. I'm not asking you to like them. All I'm asking is that you be able to breath their same air for 40 minutes a day. It's practice for life, where you will be around people you completely dislike all the time.

I think this is fallout from all the happy-happy-joy-joy fuzzy-wuzzy rhetoric we've been exposed to in our lives that insists that everyone totally and completely and joyfully love everyone else. Which is totally unrealistic and stupid and I think ultimately unhelpful when it clashes against the reality that, hello, a lot of people in the world are annoying assholes.

There was only one person ever at the co-op who really and truly rubbed me the wrong way. But, you know, accept and move on. Sometimes its even kinda fun to have a nemesis.
hopita
Apr. 10th, 2006 02:26 pm (UTC)
I'm not trying to have a nemesis. There's actually another person there who also really irks me. But he's young (note: these are both people who came to The Co-op long after you left ... the young person who was there when you were there is someone that I totally adore), and I know that, you know, it takes some time to grow the fuck up and get a fucking work ethic ... which, again, is me making excuses and empathizing.

Actually, the main thing about the young guy that stuck in my craw is that he's always goofing around and trying to get peer approval through laughter. Not necessarily a terrible thing, but when you're trying to goad me into dancing with you and high-fiving you the day after I broke up with someone that I really loved ... un uh. No. All you're gonna succeed in doing is making me cry and making me hate you.

I think new guy maybe has ADD, or something similar. But I hate that he's Mr. Charming with customers and Mr. Where The Fuck Did He Go when it comes time to do some fucking work.
pghwob
Apr. 11th, 2006 09:31 pm (UTC)
annoying co-workers
I suggest taking the matter up with this person directly, or having other co-workers intervene if needed, rather than management. I think going to management when one has problems with coworkers fosters an unhealthy dynamic in the workplace, where we are always looking for someone else to solve our problems, and give them the authority to do things that we can already do fine on our own. Obviously, there are some situations that must be dealt with quickly and decisively, but this doesn't sound to me like one of them. Let's talk about it later if you wish. If I made a list of all the folks that piss me off...;P
hopita
Apr. 23rd, 2006 05:20 am (UTC)
Re: annoying co-workers
Something tells me that's an extensive list.
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